3. A New Year, A New Friend

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<span style="font-size: large;"><em>The Basics</em></span> <strong>Name:</strong> <strong>Age:</strong> <strong>Pronouns:</strong> <strong>Country:</strong> <span style="font-size: large;"><em>The New Year</em></span><span style="font-size: medium;"> </span><strong>Do you have any resolutions?:</strong> <strong>Are there any new books, music, games, shows, etc. that you want to dive into?:</strong> <strong>Are there any small or big events that you're planning for this year?:</strong> <strong>Any new interests/hobbies that you'd like to try out?:</strong> <strong>Did you accomplish your resolutions from last year?:</strong> (If not, that's okay. Just skip this one) <strong>What were your favorite memories from the past year?:</strong> <strong>Do you have any new years traditions?:</strong> <strong>Is there anything you'd like to do more of in 2023?:</strong> <em><span style="font-size: large;">The New Friends</span></em> <strong>What kind of friend(s) are you searching for?:</strong> <strong>What do you like to read about?:</strong> <strong>How often do you check your friends feed?:</strong> <strong>Do you have any deal-breakers?:</strong> <strong>Do you mind reading about fandom?:</strong> <strong>If so, what fandoms would you like to read about?:</strong> <em><span style="font-size: large;">Currently...</span></em> <strong>Reading:</strong> <strong>Watching:</strong> <strong>Playing:</strong> <strong>Thinking about:</strong> <strong>Hobby/Interest:</strong> <strong>Planning for:</strong>

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[ysabetwordsmith]

>> Nah, they always fail in February so what's the point? <<

You're actually way ahead of the average if you're making it clear to February! 20% fail within the first week, and 80% overall.

Also, doing a small amount of something productive is better than nothing. For people who don't like long goals, I suggest one-day or one-week goals instead, and "dating" different hobbies or exercises to see what you really like. I happen to like long goals too, but I really rely on my short ones to give me a sense of accomplishment up front. Having only long ones felt like I wasn't accomplishing much.

>>Lots of tiny weekend trips throughout Austria. I've also booked a trip to Germany, to visit new boyfriend's family for the first time...<<

Oh, that sounds interesting.

>>go out more, be more active, take more pics, travel more...<<

Do you like birds at all? birdfeeding has folks from America and Scotland at least, and it's interesting to get descriptions and pictures from far-flung places. Or there's common_nature for a wider approach. I listed photography communities here.

>>People who want to interact, not just lurk around. I'm here to share my life, my ideas, my thoughts, tons of pics of course... so I wouldn't mind reading something similar?<<

I post daily on a wide range of topics. I check my reading page haphazardly as I have time. Occasionally I post pictures of my yard, just hit the Photo tag if you want to find those.

>>I do have tarantulas<<

Oh, what kinds? I've seen some interesting pictures of the orange bitey thing, pink knees, and a blue one; plus the usual brown ones.

>> a wee bit of healthy eating, sharing recipes maybe, not sure.<<

I have a Recipe tag. My latest find was a banana bread brownies recipe. My partner and I enjoy looking at cookbooks together, especially on long trips -- I read them and we talk about them, then decide which recipes to try. If you start with a healthy cookbook, you'll get new healthy recipes to test out.

>> If weight loss is a side effect that's great, but overall I want to get into a healthier routine. <<

That is a sensible approach. Small, incremental changes are much more sustainable than radical ones, although a few folks have had great success with things like starting a homestead farm. For most of us, smaller is better.

>>Stress is just no excuse to dive into bad habbits.<<

What usually happens with that is 1) people don't have a good set of coping skills, so 2) when they get stressed, they run out of energy to do the hard things like going to the gym. If your exercise routine is a relaxing walk in the woods, that is much more appealing and thus easier to maintain under stress. "Make it easy to do the right thing, and hard to do the wrong thing." Just traveling in Europe is an advantage because most of its cities are built for walking, whereas most American ones are built for driving.

So if you find this is an issue for you, consider checking your coping skills. If you don't have a bunch that work when you're exhausted and cranky, then get a big list of coping skills and test some until you find more that you like. Another approach sorts coping skills into different categories. Sometimes people struggle because they have lots of skills, but only in one or two types, so for other kinds of challenge they have little or nothing.

I also like PACE planning. Have multiple plans so if one falls through, you already know what else to try. The more time you can fill with actions, the less you have to freak out over anything.

It sounds like we have some common interests. Feel free to drop by my blog to see if you like it.